The Power of Humility

The Power of Humility

My job is pretty awesome. I get to work with great leaders all day, everyday. Most of whom you will never hear of because they are not famous. However, they are leading effectively and having an impact in the lives of others. They demonstrate the power of humility.

I have had the privilege of meeting some pretty spectacular leaders in my life. Some are well-known around the world while others are only known by a few. It makes no difference whether they are a celebrity or not. Popularity is not important to me, humility is important. Humility is the fulcrum of great leadership. Hubris is fatal to leadership. 

Observation: Looking for what is important
When I meet a leader for the first time, I go into observation mode. I watch and listen. How they treat me is of little importance. But, how they interact with the waiter at lunch or their assistant or spouse is of monumental importance. I love confidence in a leader. However, when I find their confidence is undergirded by a humble spirit, I’m pretty much on board! I’m going to engage, listen and respond with ‘how can I help?’ or encouragement.

Words say a lot
How a leader refers to themselves in relation to others is important. Do they speak in terms of ‘me vs. them’ when talking about their team? Are they willing to be vulnerable and transparent, willing to communicate failures with a smile and a chuckle? When they talk about loss, is there tear in their eye? Do they genuinely elevate and esteem others?

The power of humility cannot be manufactured. However, it can be cultivated. In the depths of humility, confidence in leadership is found.

Do you want to be a good leader?
Learn the value of humility, cultivate it and integrated it into every part of your life. The power of humility is at the core of great leadership and it acts as a magnet drawing in others. Humility is also a compass that reminds you of your own brokeness. We should strive to be truly humble.

What does the power of humility look like?
One of the best examples comes from the bible when Jesus washes the feet of his disciples.

“Jesus knowing that the Father had given all things into his hands, and that he had come from God and was going back to God, rose from supper. He laid aside his outer garments, and taking a towel, tied it around his waist. Then he poured water into a basin and began to wash the disciples’ feet and to wipe them with the towel that was wrapped around him….

When he had washed their feet and put on his outer garments and resumed his place, he said to them, “Do you understand what I have done to you? You call me Teacher and Lord, and you are right, for so I am. If I then, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another’s feet. For I have given you an example, that you also should do just as I have done to you. Truly, truly, I say to you, a servant is not greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him. If you know these things, blessed are you if you do them.” (John 13:3-5, 12-17).

Paul describes Christ’s humility in Philippians 2. “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.”

How do we cultivate humility?
Discover your motives and measure your responses

  • Are you using humility as a cover for selfishness?
  • Who’s interest do you really have in mind? Yours or someone else?
  • Are you teachable?
  • How do you respond when things do not turn out the way you intended? Do you lash out or become bitter?
  • Do you gossip about other leaders or team members?

Find ways to set aside self

  • What can I give up today for the benefit of someone else?
  • How can I quietly, perhaps anonymously use my talent, resources and influence to help someone else accomplish something important in their life?
  • Think about how limited your time is in this life. Death is the great equalizer and it is a friend of humility. What would I do or say to someone else today if I knew it would be my last?
  • Pray. When we humble ourselves before a holy, all powerful and loving God, we realize our finitude and dependency.

Grow likewise in humility. Seek to lie very low, and know more of your own nothingness. As you grow downward in humility, seek also to grow upward… Abide hard by the Cross (of Jesus Christ), and search the mystery of his wounds.” (Charles Spurgeon).

Evidence of a transformed life

I’ve struggled with a lot of things that controlled my life. Whether is was drinking, smoking, drugs or my desire to pursue selfish pleasure, I found myself under the control of these things. When something controls our desires and motivations, we are essentially in bondage to that desire. Many times we’re not even aware that we’re in bondage.
Evidence transformed life
I found that a quick examination of my thoughts and fears reveal what has control over me.  It requires complete honesty and transparency. (more…)

A spiritual problem demands a spiritual solution

A spiritual problem demands a spiritual solution

“Now a confirmed atheist, I’ve become convinced of the enormous contribution that Christian evangelism makes in Africa: sharply distinct from the work of secular NGOs, government projects and international aid efforts. These alone will not do. Education and training alone will not do. In Africa Christianity changes people’s hearts. It brings a spiritual transformation. The rebirth is real. The change is good.” – Matthew Parris (RichardDawkins.net article 2009)

The more brokenness and lostness you see in our world, the more you recognize that the problem at the core of humanity is NOT solved through material means. Governments and organizations provide tons of material relief where spiritual transformation is needed. Material resources do not solve the brokenness of the human spirit.  Relief has its place but is not the answer.  Relationship is the answer.

At its core, the human problem is a spiritual problem and demands a spiritual solution. Dumping money on communities that need rehabilitation exacerbates the problem. If your house was on fire, would you attempt to extinguish it with water or gasoline?

Jesus Christ is in the transformation business. He is the only figure in history to properly diagnose our disease (sin and death) and offer a cure (salvation and life through Christ alone). Every other worldview requires human effort. The world scoffs at the name of Jesus Christ. Strangely, an atheist recognizes the transformational power of the Gospel of Christ.  I commend him for his honesty.

If you read the Matthew Parris article, you must conclude that the transformation he is describing in Africa is authentic. He is observing the outward manifestation (evidence) of an inward transformation of the heart. People who are truly ‘in Christ’ bear the fruit of Christ; sacrificial love, service, hope, joy, discipline and patience.

The entire article is very interesting, but Matthew Parris’s conclusion nails it:
“Those who want Africa to walk tall amid 21st-century global competition must not kid themselves that providing the material means or even the knowhow that accompanies what we call development will make the change. A whole belief system must first be supplanted.

And I’m afraid it has to be supplanted by another. Removing Christian evangelism from the African equation may leave the continent at the mercy of a malign fusion of Nike, the witch doctor, the mobile phone and the machete.

Imagine waking up having settled the biggest question of life once and for all (destiny). No matter what the world throws your way, you are at peace. In the midst of the storms of life, you know for a fact that you are eternally secure. You are free to love and forgive others because you walk in the power of God’s grace in relationship with him. Experiencing God’s grace changes who you are, how you act and your motivations.  Your relationship with Christ changes your relationships with others.

If you believe that ALL humans are created in the image of God, it changes the way you see yourself and others.

Further reading and resource:
“When Helping Hurts” (Corbett and Fikkert)
Matthew Parris: As an atheist, I truly believe Africa needs God (2009 Article)

Grace that is amazing

I confess that my desire to be right, liked, recognized and accepted by people overshadows my attention to their need for the Gospel of Grace. I’m like a thirsty man in a desert who finds a cool refreshing spring and does not tell others who are dying of thirst about the spring. Shall I drink and be refreshed as I watch friends and foes alike die of thirst? May it never be!

MLKjr-Faith
People are curious about my choice to enter into full time ministry. Folks I am close with tell me that it all makes perfect sense. I chuckle. Perhaps to them it makes sense, but I find it unbelievable! But, you know something? I’ve been walking with Jesus Christ for several years now. He has never let me down. He has always been faithful to the promises in his Word (the Bible). (more…)

Stoking the Fire: A word of encouragement

Stoking the Fire: A word of encouragement

Bear Grylls can start a fire in a monsoon and 85 mph winds with nothing more than a Twizzler and a soaking wet single match. You can too with a word of encouragement.

The world is a pretty harsh place. You never know where a person is at any given moment.

There have been times when I’ve been down then, out of the blue someone else reaches into my life with a simple word of encouragement.

There have been times when I’ve been upbeat and forging ahead. Again, here comes someone with a word of encouragement that propels me further than I thought I could go.

Words have the power to build-up or destroy. We must use them wisely.

Why do we find it so easy to tear someone else down yet difficult to hand them word of encouragement? By nature, humans are selfish little beasts! We often spend more time tending to our own fires instead of helping others stoke their fires.

It’s not all about you. Lift up your eyes and look around. Ask God the question; Who needs a genuine word of encouragement around me today?

Starters: Stoking the fire

  • Hey, great work on that project last week!
  • You are a great wife and mother, here’s why…
  • You know, something you said to me last week really impacted me…
  • I’ve watched you work hard and I want to tell you to keep at it!
  • You have been a great waitress/waiter today, it blessed me. Keep up the great work.

If you look around and observe others, you will find an opportunity to stoke their fire with a word of encouragement.

“Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.” (1 Thes 5:11)
“And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works…” (Heb 10:24)

Share a time when someone has delivered a word of encouragement to you and how it felt by commenting below.